Human Design Saved My Marriage

(my husband has no idea)

Rather listen? I did a live video on this topic here.

I’ll be honest with you, I poo poo’d Human Design for quite some time.

I’m a logic girl. A science girl. I spent 20 years as an IBM executive. I like things that are practical, proven, and make sense on paper. So the idea that something called Human Design that required your birth date, time and location?

RIDICULOUS.

But, the fact that Human Design would not only enter my life but completely transform it and my business?

Total plot twist.

And yet. Here we are.

But the part I truly didn’t see coming was that Human Design was about to save my marriage.

Yes, Human Design saved my marriage. It changed my relationship with my kids. It’s shifted how I see myself, how I run my business, and how I see my life.

Five years ago I was in a very different place.

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Let me take you back to January 2021.

I had a coach at the time who challenged me with this wild idea: What if you didn’t leave your marriage from a place of anger or disappointment — what if you actually got to a place of unconditional love first, and then made the decision?

I remember thinking, what are you even talking about?

But something about it landed. So, I wrote down a goal:

“I’m so happy and grateful now that I love my husband unconditionally.”

I learned this from Bob Proctor. You write your goal on an index card and keep it close by and allow however much time it would take.

That card sat on my desk for five years. And I mean that — five years.

Almost immediately after I wrote that card, Human Design started showing up everywhere. And I kept dismissing it. I’d see a Human Design bodygraph chart with all the numbers and the geometric shapes and the lines going everywhere and I’d think, absolutely not, that is not for me.

Until it just... kept finding me.

So I finally sat down and actually studied it. I tried to do a “reading” where someone else tried to tell me about me… it really didn’t land.

So I decided to study it myself. My design, then my husband’s, then my kids’.

And that’s when everything changed.

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Here’s what nobody tells you about Human Design.

You really must study yourself. And then the magic happens when you start to see the people you love through this lens.

When I studied my husband’s design alongside mine, I could finally see it. The friction between us wasn’t about fault. It wasn’t about him being wrong or me being wrong. It was just two different energies, two different designs, bumping into each other in the kitchen every morning without any context for why.

My dad always said: a happy heart is an understood heart.

Understanding my husband’s design gave me that. And that index card goal started becoming real. I finally had the tools to actually see him. And it created so much love in my heart.

Then I studied my kids. I have a 22-year-old, a 20-year-old, and a 12-year-old, and they could not be more different from each other. When I pulled their designs, I saw the things my kids struggle with, things they excel at. I saw their genius laid out right there too. Things I’d always known about them, confirmed on the page.

That’s when this practical, science-based girl got completely blown out of the water.

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Then I brought it into my business.

I coach women near or over 50 on their legacy work — books, businesses, speaking. And the number one thing holding my clients back isn’t the how (even though they think it is the how).

It was how they see themselves. Their self-image wasn’t keeping up with their actual gifts, their legacy work.

When I started weaving Human Design into my coaching, the shifts were incredible. But my clients kept saying: Julie, I love this, but only when you translate it.

So I did.

I spent a serious amount of time rewriting the entire language of Human Design — by a woman, for women — so that you don’t need a thesaurus or a three-year-trained analyst to understand it. You should be able to read your own report and have an aha moment from the language alone. That’s the whole point.

We call this new language the IGNITE Her® Frequencies.

And the feedback I get is that it reads like your soul talking directly to you. It bypasses all the noise in your head and connects to your soul.

When I left IBM and started my business, it was HARD. Much harder than I thought. It wasn’t the how so much as I needed to completed shift my identity. I remember hiring a coach and doing a VIP day - 4 hours, $15,000.

As a master coach, they were trained on asking enough questions to finally help me see a limiting belief that I couldn’t quite see before.

While it helped, I remember thinking how not sustainable $15K was for getting to the heart of what was holding me back!

And it really got me thinking about my own clients. I knew my mission was a big movement rather than a boutique business. I knew I wanted to serve 1000s at a time - if so, how could I help them with their limiting beliefs at scale?

When I started studying Human Design I could see clear as day the exact limiting belief that the $15K master coach was able to unearth in 4 hours right there in my report!

It was sitting right there in my Human Design the whole time. I actually laughed when I found it. Could’ve saved myself a lot of money.

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So here’s what I want to invite you into.

This Friday, inside my paid membership, we’re doing a live deep-dive session on our Her Profit Map™ report — 70+ pages of your Human Design translated into language you can actually use.

When you join the paid tier, you get the report immediately, plus a custom contemplation bot I built to help you study your design on your own, plus an audio course to get you started.

And then on Friday at 11am Eastern, we go through it together — specifically through the lens of your Substack. Your voice, your soapbox, who you’re here to write for, how people are meant to experience you here.

The paid membership is $79/year or $15/month.

It’s the Substack Soapbox membership, built on the belief that you don’t need to pick a niche — you need to pick a soapbox.

And Human Design is one of the most powerful tools I’ve found for figuring out exactly what yours is.

If you’re not ready for that yet, I also have a free report linked below.

Start there. See how it lands.

But if any part of this resonated — the marriage piece, the kids piece, the part about finally seeing yourself clearly — come join us. I’ve been in personal growth for 30-something years. I was in leadership development at IBM. I’ve worked with some incredible coaches and teachers.

Nothing has been as powerful as this work with Human Design.

I’ll see you Friday. 🤍

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